You Can Have It All: How I Balance Life as A Multifaceted Woman
When I was a little girl, I dreamed of all the things I would be when I grew up: a career woman (of course, back then I was everything from a teacher to a pop star), a loving mother, somebodies’ wife, creative soul, maybe even an adventurer. But growing up, I rarely saw examples of women spreading their wings in multiple directions without being told to “slow down,” “be realistic,” or “choose what path matters most to you.” What mattered most, apparently, was never us.
The thing is, I was never built for the single lane. Today, as a CEO of Cinderella Bridez, and LuxxEscapes (more incoming), a mother, a wife, a traveler, and a makeup artist by passion, I finally say with certainty - I am a multifaceted woman, and I refuse to shrink any part of myself for comfort or approval.
Do I “have it all”? Yes, and I worked for it. Now, do I have it all at the same time, in perfect harmony? Does it come easy? Absolutely not. And that’s okay because balance, I’ve learned, isn’t the absence of chaos. It’s the ability to breathe through it, bend with it, and design a life that supports every version of you.
This is how I do it.
Giving Myself Permission to Be Multidimensional (Let Go of the Imposter Syndrome)
Before I could build balance, I had to dismantle the guilt. When I first started carving out the path of my life, I always felt I owed people an explanation. Especially when I left the security of corporate America. I decided to follow my passion and that, I thought, meant I always had to defend my decisions. I felt I had to explain why being a CEO didn’t make me less of a mother, why traveling didn’t mean I wasn’t dedicated at home, why doing makeup wasn’t “frivolous” just because I’m also running a company. As women, we’re constantly asked to justify our choices, while men are applauded for ambition and range.
Somewhere between rushing between staff meetings and styling one of my brides, I had a chance to catch my own reflection in the mirror. I was exhausted, yes, of course but more so, I was capable, creative, layered. Finally, I decided to stop introducing myself with disclaimers. No more “I’m an entrepreneur, but I also make time for my family” or “I’m a mom, but I still run multiple businesses.” Now it’s simply: I am all of these, and I love all of these. Owning that truth has allowed me to run my life based on authenticity that people can relate to and it has truly created space for everything else to fall perfectly into place.
The Rhythm, Not the Routine
People often ask me, “What’s your daily routine? How do you keep everything organized?” Probably expecting to hear a hyper-structured, minute-by-minute breakdown involving color-coded Google calendars and 5:00 a.m. meditations. Some special guide or handbook telling you step by step instructions for how to get it right. The truth is – sometimes it’s about the rhythm, not aiming for perfection.
My rhythm looks something like this: mornings are for me time. I take some time to check in with myself. A moment of peace and quiet while I drink my morning espresso. A long run for some clarity before I start my day, or even just the extra time to do my makeup without having to rush (cue the BB and CC creams). Then, I get to work. Every day. Reviewing strategy, meeting up with my team, creating content for branding. When I’m CEO Barbie, I am fully locked in. Engaged, present, inspired. Then finally, the evenings. Those belong to my loved ones. A family dinner, a move night, even a cocktail with the girls. This time really balances me out – and I wouldn’t be me without them.
Balance isn’t symmetrical—it’s responsive. Some days require more mothering, some more leadership, some more self-care. Allowing the day to tell me what it needs, instead of forcing it into a rigid blueprint, has saved my sanity. Sure, I can create the most organized and structured Google calendar there is, but allowing for change when it’s needed is how I really show up for all areas of my life – without sacrifice.
Romanticizing Responsibility
One of my favorite ways to stay grounded is by romanticizing. No, not in the “rose colored glasses” or “my life is perfect” type of way. But in finding the beauty in the mundane tasks we often overlook.
When I’m traveling for work, I romanticize the quiet hotel mornings where I squeeze in emails before the hustle and bustle begins. Especially in gorgeous resorts where I am so blessed to stay due to my career. Recently I stayed at the Round Hill Resort for example, and I fully took advantage of the peaceful outdoor seating to get my day started. Soaking it all in and embracing the moment makes these seemingly boring or mundane tasks feel more like an experience I can be excited about.
When I’m doing makeup, I romanticize the little transformations. The glow that spreads not from the highlighter but from my confidence when I find a new product that seems like it was made exactly for me.
When I’m parenting, I romanticize every little moment – and I’m grateful that I always have. From the sticky fingers getting stuck in my hair, to my favorite lipstick being missing from my kit after seeing my daughter in a strikingly similar shade, to the many tears shed over experiences all of us girls go through in our formative years. Being a mom is my most rewarding and most difficult title. But looking at those difficult moments with tenderness really changes everything.
Romanticizing my roles doesn’t erase stress but it does elevate my presence. It allows me to appreciate the little moments. This mindset keeps me from sleepwalking through my responsibilities. It’s my way of reminding myself: I chose this life, in fact, I created it carefully and I’m allowed to enjoy the view from every angle.
The Real Secret Is What I Don’t Do
Listen, I love a productivity hack as much as the next person. Productivity planners are not to be overlooked. But really, the most liberating part of balance is learning what to say no to.
I don’t attend every meeting I’m invited to. I don’t answer emails at dinner. I don’t go to every school event, every social event, or agree to every “quick favor.” I don’t apologize for protecting my peace.
Most importantly: I don’t try to prove to anyone that I’m managing it all flawlessly. The performance of perfection is the fastest way to imbalance. My house is not always tidy. My suitcase is sometimes packed at the last minute. My inbox grows terrifying if I look away too long. Some days my mascara is still from last night's look, but my business plan is perfectly crisp; other days my makeup is immaculate, and my parenting is utter improvisation. Balance has allowed me to understand that life doesn’t collapse if I drop a ball. I simply pick it up again and keep moving.
Prioritizing Pleasure Without Apology
One of the most radical acts for a multifaceted woman is making time for herself without labeling it “self-care” to justify it. I love self-care. I love a good mask, a solo café date, a spontaneous flight, a beauty supply haul, a carefully curated skin care routine. But I’ve stopped acting like these things are indulgences. They're necessities.
Pleasure is not a reward, it’s fuel. Especially when you work hard in every aspect of your life. Those moments I take for myself mean there’s no room for resentment. I deserve to fill my own cup just as much as I’m filling others. Take time to do the things that bring you back to yourself. Be it just treating yourself to a new product you're excited about, on a solo trip for self-reflection, or even just a solo night in – stay aligned with yourself and the rest will follow.
Delegation Without Guilt
This is something I resisted for far too long: you cannot be superwoman if you insist on doing everything alone. Delegation is not a weakness. There is power in trust. Learning how to choose a team that I know I can depend on has taken time. I delegate at work because my team is talented and deserves ownership. Delegation allows me to be a visionary, not a micromanager. At home, I delegate because partnership is about shared responsibility, not quiet resentment. In life, I delegate because my time is valuable and spending it with intention matters more than spending it performing competence.
Whether it’s hiring help, leaning on family, or simply letting someone else take the lead; asking for support is part of balancing many identities.
Strong women don’t carry everything. Strong women know what to carry, what to share, and what to set down.
Traveling to Remember Who I Am
You know that old saying “love what you do, and you’ll never work a day in your life?” Well, in some ways that’s true. My job requires a lot of travel. Choosing the perfect destination is half the recipe for the perfect wedding. The good news for me is that travel isn’t my escape, it’s my recalibration.
There’s something sacred about stepping into a new city as a woman with many titles and feeling those titles temporarily quiet. I love wandering local markets, studying faces, colors, and textures, gathering inspiration for makeup looks or brand ideas. I love the anonymity, the fresh air for my mind, the reminder that there are countless ways to live a life.
Travel allows me to expand, not stretch thin. It reconnects me with the version of myself that existed before the responsibilities multiplied. She is bold, curious, unhurried. It’s that same curiosity that led me to take the risk to leave my corporate job and start something totally new. A new adventure, a new destination opens a new perspective. When I return home, I’m fuller, softer, and more equipped to pour into the people and projects I love.
Motherhood as My Anchor, Not My Limitation
Motherhood changed me. No, not in the way that I had to sacrifice who I was to it, but by refining my sense of purpose. Many people think of motherhood and think it means you must give up all your own hopes and dreams to raise your child. That couldn’t be farther from my truth. Being a mother doesn’t limit my identity; it strengthens my “why.” My child gets to grow up watching a woman chase dreams, build businesses, express creativity, and explore the world.
They see me multitask, but they also see me rest, love, apologize, and try again. They see me prioritize, persist, mess up and try again. They see me at my best and my worst and I feel confident in knowing they will conquer anything they put their minds to – because they don’t have limitations.
Motherhood didn’t take pieces of me; it gave me new ones.
The Real Meaning of “Having It All”
If you take only one thing from this entire reflection, let it be that having it all doesn’t mean having everything exactly perfect all of the time. It means honoring all parts of who you are and refusing to abandon one dream to validate another.
I have it all because I choose a life that allows me to be everything I dreamed of – because I made it that way. I wanted to be a CEO with vision, a mother with heart, a wife with her own identity, a world traveler, a creator. A multifaceted woman.
I have found a life overflowing with purpose, beauty, creativity, and joy—even when the laundry isn’t done, the deadlines are close, or the flights are delayed. You can have it all too, but first you need to know what “having it all” means to you and then learn to find solace in the imperfect moments. Balance means taking the good with the bad. You can have it all, you just have to know that you can. Follow along on my journey on Instagram and Tiktok! I’d love to hear from you.
