Every Outfit Starts with This One Question…

There’s a moment every morning that sets the tone for my entire day — that quiet, internal pause before I open my closet. It’s not about the latest trends or a capsule wardrobe carefully curated to fit one style. Instead, it’s a simple but powerful question that guides every outfit choice: Who do I want to be today?

Some mornings, I’m gearing up for back-to-back client meetings, craving the confidence that a sharp blazer and bold lip can deliver. Other days, my calendar calls for casual creativity — a moment to channel my playful side with colors and textures that feel like a warm hug. And then there are evenings like last weekend, when the city pulses with energy during Latin night, and I found myself reaching for pieces that could dance with the rhythm — fiery reds, sleek silhouettes, and just the right amount of sparkle.

I’ve written about all kinds of style guides before — how to nail Hot Girl Summer essentials, navigate business fashion trends as a CEO, or just practical tips to make dressing easier. But the truth is, every day feels different when it comes to my real style. It’s not about constantly chasing the newest piece or obsessing over a perfect aesthetic.

In fact, I keep a lot of old favorites — pieces that hold memories or just fit me like a second skin. I re-wear them often, remixing with new finds or unexpected pairings. My wardrobe is a playground where I get to have fun, experiment, and sometimes surprise even myself. That’s part of what makes asking Who do I want to be today? Because it honors both the classics I rely on and the bold new choices I want to explore.

As someone who wears many hats — entrepreneur, mom, makeup artist, content creator — my style isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s fluid, flexible, and deeply personal. Each outfit becomes a reflection of not just what I’m doing, but who I’m choosing to be in that moment.

This approach to dressing — asking myself that core question each morning — has transformed how I view my wardrobe. Clothes become tools, not just decorations. They’re an extension of mindset, a way to prepare for challenges or celebrate victories.

Style isn’t static. Embracing the freedom to play, reinvent, and honor where I’ve been allows me to show up in the world fully, without pressure or limits. When I get dressed this way, I’m not just covering skin; I’m crafting a persona, a feeling, a way of showing up. It’s a practice of mindfulness, creativity, and self-respect that carries through every part of my day.

The Mood Behind the Look

I don’t wake up every day with a full outfit planned. Honestly, most mornings start with a vibe, not a vision. Before I even step into my closet, I’m already checking in with myself — mentally running through my day, my mood, and my calendar. What am I walking into today? Is it an industry event? A birthday dinner? A laid-back family gathering? It all depends. Sometimes the day calls for power and polish; other times, it calls for softness or sparkle. My style doesn’t start with clothes — it starts with me, and what the day ahead is asking of me.

And if I’m traveling? That adds a whole new layer to the conversation. Where I’m going plays a huge role in what I’m wearing — not just because of the setting, but because of the version of myself I want to tap into while I’m there. If I’m heading to Rome for a wedding, you better believe I’m packing a lehnga that brings the drama, along with a few chic, comfortable pieces for strolling through cobblestone streets with gelato in hand. If it’s the Maldives, I want to feel like water — so I’m reaching for the flowiest dresses I own: light fabrics, easy elegance. The destination sets the tone, and the wardrobe follows.

Sometimes I need armor — not in the literal sense, but in the “let’s get things done and not play around today” sense. Those are the days I reach for structure: strong shoulders, clean lines, maybe a monochrome moment with a sharp blazer and minimal accessories. Other days, I’m soft. I want flowy fabrics, oversized knits, something that lets me breathe and just be. That contrast isn’t confusion — it’s range. It’s permission to show up as I am.

Mood dressing isn’t just for fashion girls on TikTok. It’s for the woman who wants to feel like herself in every room she walks into. And I mean really feel like herself — not just look put-together for someone else’s approval. That’s why this question — Who do I want to be today? — is so important. It lets me lead from the inside out. It reminds me I don’t have to be anyone but me, whatever version of “me” shows up that day.

And let’s be real: some days, the mood is “Get it done, but make it cute.” Others? It’s “I need a little sparkle to carry me through.” There's no formula, and that’s kind of the beauty of it. Dressing for your mood doesn’t mean you’re inconsistent — it means you're present. You’re listening. You’re letting your wardrobe support your energy, not dictate it.

So when you’re getting dressed tomorrow, I want you to try something. Before you think about what’s on trend, ask yourself: What’s the energy I’m bringing into the day? Let your outfit rise to meet it.

Closet Staples I Rewear on Repeat

Let me be honest: I’m not someone who’s pulling out brand-new outfits every week. I don’t have an unlimited closet. I rewear a lot — and I love that about my style. I actually find joy in rediscovering pieces I’ve had for years, things that still make me feel good, still hold up, still tell a story. There’s a quiet kind of power in having a go-to blazer that’s seen you through pitches, photoshoots, and last-minute events… and still delivers every time.

Some of my favorite pieces aren’t flashy at all. They’re the ones that fit — not just on the body, but in my life. A pair of wide-leg trousers that make me feel like a boss and move with me when I’m on the go. A slip dress that works just as well at brunch as it does with heels for date night. A crisp white shirt that’s been styled a dozen ways and still feels fresh. These are the pieces I trust. And the beauty is, they get better the more you wear them — more memories, more confidence, more you.

I think we’ve been sold the idea that rewearing clothes is boring, like we’re supposed to always be chasing the next thing. But honestly? Style is in the styling. I could wear the same black dress five different ways, and each version tells a totally different story. Add a red lip and gold hoops? That’s one mood. Throw on a trench and sneakers? Completely different vibe. Your staples don’t limit you — they free you.

And the thing is, rewearing isn’t just practical — it’s personal. I have pieces that remind me of specific moments: the dress I wore to my first brand shoot, the earrings I bought in a tiny boutique on vacation, a blazer that’s basically become my good luck charm. These things carry energy. They’ve seen my growth, and they’ve grown with me. That makes them priceless.

So no, I don’t believe in closet shame. I believe in closet storytelling. If you catch me in something I’ve worn before, just know — it’s on purpose. I’m not trying to reinvent myself every day. I’m just adding new layers to the woman I already am.

Questions to Ask Yourself When You’re Stuck Staring at Your Closet

We’ve all had those mornings. You open the closet doors, take one look, and immediately think: I have nothing to wear. Even with a full wardrobe, nothing feels quite right. And when that happens to me — because yes, it still does — I know it’s not really about the clothes. It’s about connection. I’m disconnected from myself, from what I need, from what the day is asking of me.

So instead of spiraling into outfit panic, I’ve started asking better questions. These little check-ins bring me back to myself and make the styling process feel less overwhelming, more empowering. Start with this one — always: Who do I want to be today? But then go deeper. Try…

What’s on my calendar, and how do I want to show up for it? Am I stepping into a leadership role, or do I need to feel relaxed and open today? Am I hosting, creating, resting, connecting? Your outfit can support your role, instead of making you feel like you’re performing one.

What does my body need today? Do I want to feel held and structured? Or do I need softness, ease, and room to breathe? Some days it’s heels and a cinched waist. Other days, it’s slides and stretch. Both are valid. Both can be beautiful.

What’s one piece I haven’t worn in a while? Sometimes, just anchoring the outfit around a single item — a jacket, a scarf, a necklace with a story — is enough to pull the rest together. You don’t need a whole new look. You just need a spark.

What color matches my mood (or the mood I want)? I’m a big believer in the energy of color. If I need a boost, I’ll go for something bright — pinks, reds, golds. If I’m craving calm, I lean into neutrals and soft tones. Let color carry the feeling.

These questions aren’t rules. They’re invitations — to come home to yourself before you dress yourself. You don’t need a stylist in your closet. You just need a moment of honesty and a little creativity.

Give Yourself Permission to Be All of It

Here’s the truth: you don’t have to choose just one version of yourself and stick to it forever. You’re allowed to change. You’re allowed to wake up and want something completely different than you did yesterday. You’re allowed to be a boss one day, a soft girl the next, and a walking disco ball by the weekend. That doesn’t make you inconsistent — it makes you alive.

I think somewhere along the way, we were told we had to define our aesthetic — stick to a signature style, build a uniform, brand ourselves down to the hemline. And while there’s nothing wrong with knowing your style DNA, I also think there’s magic in not boxing yourself in. You contain multitudes. So why shouldn’t your closet reflect that?

The way I see it, style isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being in tune. With your body, your mood, your moment. And that means giving yourself permission to shift. To experiment. To revisit old favorites. To wear the bold dress on a Tuesday. To throw on something simple and still feel like that girl.

You’re not dressing for approval. You’re dressing for alignment. When you wear something that feels like you — even if it’s unexpected, even if it breaks some imaginary fashion rule — you show up more fully. That energy speaks louder than any label.

So let this be your reminder: you don’t need to fit a theme. You don’t need to pick a lane. You just need to trust yourself. You already know what to wear. You already know who you are. Let your closet rise to meet her.

If you loved this peek into how I approach personal style, there’s so much more on my Instagram and TikTok — from everyday looks to behind-the-scenes moments, and all the moods in between. And of course, stay tuned to the blog for more style stories, reflections, and inspiration for showing up as whoever you need to be that day.